THOUGHT OF THE DAY (MARCH 20, 2013) "RELATING TO RELATIONSHIPS"

The most turbulent "RELATIONSHIP" I have ever encountered was with GOD! Being ignorant to the fact that we are born to die, I resented God for taking away my loved ones as well as a few other things. His WILL was not my will. This caused me to mistrust Him and His word. Jesus changed this ailment of my heart and brain! IGNORANCE is bliss among those who do not know better and I once held this position! ~ Pamela Adams

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time.  You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love." ~Author Unknown

RELATIONSHIPS of any kind involves all emotions especially HURT. The beautiful thing "is" if we love enough we can and will overcome the hurt. Being human regardless of how much someone loves us we will eventually hurt them. Not by intention but by inattention. Those times when our focus is mainly on self, we will do selfish things, which will hurt those that love us. It is not until we are faced with hurt ourselves that we look back and see the damage we have done to someone else. Having our hearts broken is a great wake up call for everything we have done......Good and Bad. Living this life we will face hurt and we will hurt others; but there must be a balance. My balance is GOD. Simply because God is LOVE. When you are mindful of the things you want to do as opposed of doing what is right and loving then and only then will selfishness cease to exist inside of you. This does not mean you will not want to have those private moments between you and God; but it means outside of your relationship with Him you will see things more clearly. YOU WILL SEE WHAT TRULY MATTERS. In order to relate in relationships the WORD OF GOD is imperative. We are living in a time where blended families have become the majority instead of minority. Because of Divorce children are caught in between two parents which are fighting about mostly everything. Once one or both of the parents remarry the children are confused on where their loyalties should lie. This situation causes much discord in the new family situation. Especially when the other parent is bitter. Not because they may want the other parent but because they simply do not like them anymore. When they draw the children in their disputes all types of havoc will irrupt! There is needless back and forth and the children suffer. We must be mindful to marry for the right reasons and to the right people. People we intend to spend the rest of our lives with! People we intend to not only bear children with; but LOVE endlessly. Regardless of any given situation the need to love through it is what is most important. If we choose love over bitterness there will be no bounds nor discord. We are free to speak freely and openly without haste or hatefulness. When we are mindful to put other's first. When both people do this there will be no reason for unhappiness nor separation. Our biggest problem in relationships is we become selfish when we believe we are being taken for granted. In love there is no selfishness. Therefore, we will not be taken advantage of. Just because someone loves us does not mean they know all about us. It is impossible for them to know how we feel inside or read our minds. It's unfair to expect they will. When they fail us in any type of way we begin assuming their feelings for us. Once ASSUMPTION begins to replace love we have a problem!

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." ~Henry Winkler

ASSUMPTION makes an ass out of all of us once it takes over! Fighting with best friends, family  members, co-workers, church members, spouses, parents and lovers are stemmed solely on assumptions. We must prove beyond any reasonable doubt that we are fighting fairly with FACTS and not assumptions. Our minds will play tricks on us especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Jealousy has no place in any of our relationships because what GOD has for us will be just for us! We cannot expect our spouses to not talk with the opposite sex, to not have friends and just spend every waking moment with us......IMPOSSIBLE! We cannot expect co-workers or classmates to just deal with us and not with other co-workers. We cannot expect to be #1 in the lives of those we love. Only GOD should hold that position and if He does not then you both have problems. You both will be lead astray because their is no middle ground to meet. You cannot grow nor will you be able to relate. True GROWTH only comes through God and only God will be able to get you through those rough times. Keep your FAMILY, FAMILY, your FRIENDS, FRIENDS and everything else will work it's way out with GOD'S HELP. BE BLESSED!

Present your family and friends with their eulogies now - they won't be able to hear how much you love them and appreciate them from the grave.  ~Anonymous

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