THOUGHT OF THE DAY (MARCH 20, 2013) "RELATING TO RELATIONSHIPS"

The most turbulent "RELATIONSHIP" I have ever encountered was with GOD! Being ignorant to the fact that we are born to die, I resented God for taking away my loved ones as well as a few other things. His WILL was not my will. This caused me to mistrust Him and His word. Jesus changed this ailment of my heart and brain! IGNORANCE is bliss among those who do not know better and I once held this position! ~ Pamela Adams

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time.  You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love." ~Author Unknown

RELATIONSHIPS of any kind involves all emotions especially HURT. The beautiful thing "is" if we love enough we can and will overcome the hurt. Being human regardless of how much someone loves us we will eventually hurt them. Not by intention but by inattention. Those times when our focus is mainly on self, we will do selfish things, which will hurt those that love us. It is not until we are faced with hurt ourselves that we look back and see the damage we have done to someone else. Having our hearts broken is a great wake up call for everything we have done......Good and Bad. Living this life we will face hurt and we will hurt others; but there must be a balance. My balance is GOD. Simply because God is LOVE. When you are mindful of the things you want to do as opposed of doing what is right and loving then and only then will selfishness cease to exist inside of you. This does not mean you will not want to have those private moments between you and God; but it means outside of your relationship with Him you will see things more clearly. YOU WILL SEE WHAT TRULY MATTERS. In order to relate in relationships the WORD OF GOD is imperative. We are living in a time where blended families have become the majority instead of minority. Because of Divorce children are caught in between two parents which are fighting about mostly everything. Once one or both of the parents remarry the children are confused on where their loyalties should lie. This situation causes much discord in the new family situation. Especially when the other parent is bitter. Not because they may want the other parent but because they simply do not like them anymore. When they draw the children in their disputes all types of havoc will irrupt! There is needless back and forth and the children suffer. We must be mindful to marry for the right reasons and to the right people. People we intend to spend the rest of our lives with! People we intend to not only bear children with; but LOVE endlessly. Regardless of any given situation the need to love through it is what is most important. If we choose love over bitterness there will be no bounds nor discord. We are free to speak freely and openly without haste or hatefulness. When we are mindful to put other's first. When both people do this there will be no reason for unhappiness nor separation. Our biggest problem in relationships is we become selfish when we believe we are being taken for granted. In love there is no selfishness. Therefore, we will not be taken advantage of. Just because someone loves us does not mean they know all about us. It is impossible for them to know how we feel inside or read our minds. It's unfair to expect they will. When they fail us in any type of way we begin assuming their feelings for us. Once ASSUMPTION begins to replace love we have a problem!

"Assumptions are the termites of relationships." ~Henry Winkler

ASSUMPTION makes an ass out of all of us once it takes over! Fighting with best friends, family  members, co-workers, church members, spouses, parents and lovers are stemmed solely on assumptions. We must prove beyond any reasonable doubt that we are fighting fairly with FACTS and not assumptions. Our minds will play tricks on us especially when it comes to matters of the heart. Jealousy has no place in any of our relationships because what GOD has for us will be just for us! We cannot expect our spouses to not talk with the opposite sex, to not have friends and just spend every waking moment with us......IMPOSSIBLE! We cannot expect co-workers or classmates to just deal with us and not with other co-workers. We cannot expect to be #1 in the lives of those we love. Only GOD should hold that position and if He does not then you both have problems. You both will be lead astray because their is no middle ground to meet. You cannot grow nor will you be able to relate. True GROWTH only comes through God and only God will be able to get you through those rough times. Keep your FAMILY, FAMILY, your FRIENDS, FRIENDS and everything else will work it's way out with GOD'S HELP. BE BLESSED!

Present your family and friends with their eulogies now - they won't be able to hear how much you love them and appreciate them from the grave.  ~Anonymous

:~)Pfp (Peaceful with my POSITION)

MARRIAGE

"Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart." ~Psalm 37:4
 

 Many are on the quest to find Love but are failing to realize that " True Love" will find them. It will not require jumping through hoops as found in the DATING WORLD. The best way to find real love is to just be your genuine self. Your heart will let you know when the Love of Your Life has arrived. After meeting my husband I was confused by my attraction to him because he did not fit my physical description of what I wanted in a man. His Occupation was not what I pictured my husband doing. Oh, but as I became to know him, my picture was destroyed. EVERYTHING I ever wanted in a MAN I found in him. My heart told me without a doubt: "THIS IS YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND!" Although we did not marry until some years later and have experienced the ups and downs of Relationships, we are still together after 20 years of knowing one another and 13 years of Marriage. I will not try to deceive you by saying it has been happy times through and through. We both had growing pains we had to endure. Many changes and problems came about after marrying even separation. When we separated my first thought was Divorce. During our separation, I pursued him for the Divorce and he opposed each time. He knew that we both needed some room to GROW and he was determined not to Divorce. It took us a very long while to Grow into an apology for the error of our ways; but in God's time we did and REUNITED. Today, I am happy to say we are HAPPILY MARRIED and will do whatever it takes to keep it that way. GOD and Complete Honesty is all that's needed and the rest will be History. Being heard in a marriage is probably the best thing you can do for your mate. Understanding their needs is priceless. The biggest mistake is being selfish! Loving the one you MARRIED is an command; not a request. Family and Friends are good to have; but their opinions do not matter. Where many women make their mistakes and I as well, we solicit advice from others who really do not have the best interest of our relationships in their hearts. Their words will speak kindness; but eventually their actions will reveal different. When you marry you become one and the advice of others is ill advised. Take your troubles to GOD in prayer. Afterall, A Family That Prays Together, Stay Together. Don't expect your mate to be an mind reader. Be specific about your needs, hurts and desires. Explain if they do not understand and be kind while explaining. Our mates love us; but it's unfair to expect them to know and be all to us. This is the best way to suffocate any situation or anyone. Value your private time without your mate and allow them to enjoy theirs. I see many married couples who will bombard their mates with phone calls and text messages as if to interrupt whatever they are doing. NOT COOL! Although married, everyone is allowed their personal space to relax in their own way. I have found that when you talk more of what's going on with others than paying attention to your spouse is the best way to either run them away or make them isolate themselves from you when at home. It's important to let your mate know they are your Priority and your time with them is special. Refreshen your relationship by laughing and truly listening to one another's concerns or interests. Be Genuine when dealing with one another because it's truly important to give your all than just some. Remember your mate for life is your bestfriend and a part of you. Do unto them as you would have them do unto you. Most of all LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!!!

 

HAPPY MARRIAGE AND GOD BLESS
~Pfp (Happily Married)
 



Couples have fun like everyone else!

 

 

 

THE OTHER WOMAN

FREE YOUR MIND FROM THIS WOMAN!

STOP STRESSING!

We all know the OTHER WOMAN,that thirsty and desperate chick! The one who is doing everything in her power to destroy the relationship you are sharing with your HUSBAND. What many of us fail to realize is regardless of how irritating this chick may be, she's irrelevant in your world. She's that irritating fly on a hot summer's day that will not go away until she is swatted or find another subject to which to irritate. Waking up or going to sleep with this chick being mentally in between you and him can easily be solved.....DON'T THINK ABOUT HER OR BRING HER UP! You are the one keeping her in the forefront; NOT HIM! WHY would you spend your precious time with him wanting to discuss her? This makes you look insecure and stupid!I know I have been there and done that. Keep it simple, she had your man for whatever reason and now it's over. Obviously he has moved on because he's not keeping it a secret that you and he are back together. When she confronted you, he made sure your safety was the #1 priority and he sent her packing. What else do you want the man to do...."Bleed?" If your man has to keep re-living his past with you he will not want you in his future. It's less COMPLICATED that way. I understand we do not like the idea our men was sharing his life with someone else at some given time; but, what you need to be asking yourself is this.....WHO IS HE WITH "NOW"???.....Y.O.U.!!! Get past it or MOVE ON. The choice is yours to make. Why live in MISERY with doubts and no trust when you can be doing something else or meeting someone who does not have a past. When you and your husband separated wasn't it mutual? Did you not have another guy sharing your life? YES, YES AND HELL YES!!! If you fill yourself with the LoVE OF GOD this would not bother you because you would know that you are safe from all hurt, harm and danger. We all get weak sometimes and sometimes we all make mistakes; but it's called life. LIVE AND LEARN! Don't waste one more precious moment letting that other woman OCCUPY your mind, body or soul. YOU GOT THIS and GOD HAS YOU! True Love is too precious to be wasted. Forget the past and make a new future for you and with yours; NOT hers. God Bless.

~Pfp (The other WHO?)