"Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart." ~Psalm 37:4
Many are on the quest to find Love but are failing to realize that " True Love" will find them. It will not require jumping through hoops as found in the DATING WORLD. The best way to find real love is to just be your genuine self. Your heart will let you know when the Love of Your Life has arrived. After meeting my husband I was confused by my attraction to him because he did not fit my physical description of what I wanted in a man. His Occupation was not what I pictured my husband doing. Oh, but as I became to know him, my picture was destroyed. EVERYTHING I ever wanted in a MAN I found in him. My heart told me without a doubt: "THIS IS YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND!" Although we did not marry until some years later and have experienced the ups and downs of Relationships, we are still together after 20 years of knowing one another and 13 years of Marriage. I will not try to deceive you by saying it has been happy times through and through. We both had growing pains we had to endure. Many changes and problems came about after marrying even separation. When we separated my first thought was Divorce. During our separation, I pursued him for the Divorce and he opposed each time. He knew that we both needed some room to GROW and he was determined not to Divorce. It took us a very long while to Grow into an apology for the error of our ways; but in God's time we did and REUNITED. Today, I am happy to say we are HAPPILY MARRIED and will do whatever it takes to keep it that way. GOD and Complete Honesty is all that's needed and the rest will be History. Being heard in a marriage is probably the best thing you can do for your mate. Understanding their needs is priceless. The biggest mistake is being selfish! Loving the one you MARRIED is an command; not a request. Family and Friends are good to have; but their opinions do not matter. Where many women make their mistakes and I as well, we solicit advice from others who really do not have the best interest of our relationships in their hearts. Their words will speak kindness; but eventually their actions will reveal different. When you marry you become one and the advice of others is ill advised. Take your troubles to GOD in prayer. Afterall, A Family That Prays Together, Stay Together. Don't expect your mate to be an mind reader. Be specific about your needs, hurts and desires. Explain if they do not understand and be kind while explaining. Our mates love us; but it's unfair to expect them to know and be all to us. This is the best way to suffocate any situation or anyone. Value your private time without your mate and allow them to enjoy theirs. I see many married couples who will bombard their mates with phone calls and text messages as if to interrupt whatever they are doing. NOT COOL! Although married, everyone is allowed their personal space to relax in their own way. I have found that when you talk more of what's going on with others than paying attention to your spouse is the best way to either run them away or make them isolate themselves from you when at home. It's important to let your mate know they are your Priority and your time with them is special. Refreshen your relationship by laughing and truly listening to one another's concerns or interests. Be Genuine when dealing with one another because it's truly important to give your all than just some. Remember your mate for life is your bestfriend and a part of you. Do unto them as you would have them do unto you. Most of all LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!!!HAPPY MARRIAGE AND GOD BLESS
~Pfp (Happily Married)
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